“The Importance of gratitude“
Do you sometimes wonder why you’re not feeling joyful and contented each day? Are you struggling to understand why the new car, house or boat is now losing its appeal? Have you been promising yourself that when you drop some weight, get a new hair style, retire, get a new job, get a partner, tidy the garden, or go on a holiday, that you will feel happier and more fulfilled with your life? You’re on a treadmill, and the reality is that there is no end to the desires and wants and pie-in-the-sky fantasies about how and when life will be what you perceive as perfect.
This is known as the hedonic effect. Eventually, no matter how much we have externally, we can become dissatisfied and begin to long for more of a certain thing, or for something completely different. So, are we intrinsically cursed to be miserable? Or is there a piece of the puzzle that we have overlooked? There’s a 1980’s song by cowboy Johnny Lee called Looking For Love In All The Wrong Places, and it seems that our priorities in modern day living have us focusing on looking to material possessions or certain situations in the belief, or at least the hope, that they will bring us joy and a feeling of completeness. I can already hear a chorus of collective buts…excuses and justifications for why it is necessary to stay exactly where you are right now. On the treadmill of your daily life. And while these reasons surely have validity and we need to honour certain responsibilities, we do not need to feel continually despondent in our daily lives. There is a word we need to become best friends with in order to alter our perspective – GRATITUDE